Thursday, February 16, 2006

Growing Up Again

We spend a good part of our lives growing up. And before we know it, in the eyes of the world, we are "grown up" and it's time for us to help others do the same. It can be refreshing to go back and spend some time with those who grew up with us.

I did just that today. I met two groups of friends who grew up with me. And with both groups, much good news was shared and celebrated.

One friend brought his new partner. Another spoke about how he was soon to wed. And another told us about how he was on his journey to become a father and take responsibility for a life. And a fourth shared about his most recent achievement. The happiness was contagious!

It was as if one had found a cherished moment, lost in the subconscious.

When was the last time you met friends who grew up with you?

When was the last time such a friend shared good news with you?

When was the last time you shared good news with this friend?

There is much value in finding forgotten friendships. And if you haven't done this in a while, there could be no better time than now.

Dharmendra Yadav

Wednesday, February 08, 2006

Journey More Valuable Than Reward

Someone I know recently made his child sign an agreement. The agreement puts in place a structure to reward the child with more money, as the child moves from success to success.

I wonder what values the parent will impart to the child. The child may grow up to have sound financial management skills and will perhaps make a good negotiator for a pay increase!

On the other hand, the child may grow up to cherish the reward more than the journey to success.

In school, I received less than most of my peers. My parents made me realise very early I was unlike other children, and my life would not be like "the others".

My parents thought me to:
a. value learning experiences more than material things; and
b. seek happiness, share happiness and celebrate happiness; and
c. be independent.

When I achieved, my folks did not buy me presents. Instead, they provided me opportunities to spend time with loved ones. My parents knew the journey is more valuable than the reward.

It is important to be aware of the values one wishes to impart to another.

Dharmendra Yadav